Tony Robbins is lying to you.
He says, “The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your questions”.
I say, “that’s twaddle”.
He’s close, but close only counts in horseshoes, hand grenades, and encounters of the third kind.
For example, the other day I asked a high-quality question when deciding whether to buy more heating oil now… or wait and see if prices start to fall.
Here was my question:
“In your opinion, do you think the price of heating oil is going to go up or down in the next couple of weeks?”
As questions go, I’m sure you’ll agree it’s pretty solid. It’s clear, specific, and straight to the point.
If I was directing it to a day trader who specialised in trading Brent Crude and wearing snazzy suspenders I might have got a decent answer.
Unfortunately, I wasn’t. I was asking the receptionist at my local garage.
She kinda ummed for a bit on the phone until eventually admitting, “I have no idea. To be honest, I only started last week. I just take the orders.”
The quality of my life didn’t reflect the quality of my question.
Tony Robbins… you lying git!
And that’s the thing…
It’s all well and good asking great questions, but you’ve got to factor in who you’re asking.
There’s an old saying:
“When Uncle Jim comes over, hide the silverware…”
That might just be my family.
Here’s another saying you’re probably more familiar with:
“To a hammer, every problem looks like a nail.”
So if you’re asking a top-quality question like:
“How can I get more leads?”
You might get answers like:
“You should try Facebook ads”… from a Facebook ads person.
“You should start emailing your list more”… from an email copywriter.
“Go to Pets R Us – they have a two for one special on”… from a dog trainer.
If you want a top-quality answer, your best bet is to ask a bunch of people, put their answers together, and determine your best way forward from there.
I know that’s a rather woolly ending to this email, but not everything in life is sum-up-able in a pithy sentence.
I’ll give it a bash though:
“The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your questions, but also, and probably to a larger extent, the quality of the people you ask that question too. Ask the right people the right questions and your life probably won’t turn out to be a car crash.”
(I reserve the right to get “Ask the right people the right questions and your life probably won’t turn out to be a car crash.” T-shirts printed)
John “Unleash The Flower Within” Holt